March 17, 2018

Motherhood // Time & Turning 90

After we had one too many pieces of cake in our belly and over 90+ hugs from family, the women in my life and I sat down to talk about motherhood. Three generations of wisdom wrapped up in one blog post! Below is what I've learned.

Time, and how we use it, has become much more valuable to me since I became a mom. And, after, talking to the special women in my life, I learned that the value we place on time as mothers will evolve again in the future and mostly like twice, if not three or four more times. Although I can't predict the future anymore than I can predict how I'll feel about it, below is what I've learned this week about being a mom from pre-motherhood, to early motherhood, and even to great grandmother-hood years. 

Time: Pre-Motherhood days (Early to late 20's)

Sleep: Sleeping in on weekends refreshes you. You can even squeeze in a nap during those college years.

Coffee: Finding the best coffee shop and posting it on social media

Family: The constant, most important part of your life (even if it's subconsciously). They are eager to hear how your life is going, friends, graduation, job hunting, career, dating, wedding planning etc. They call just to "check in" or send cards and care packages. You may even be asked to go on vacation with them!

Time: Early Motherhood (20's-30's)

Sleep: Constantly question yourself if you'll ever feel "rested and refreshed again." Sleep interuptions become your new normal. 

Coffee: Getting any kind of coffee (hot or cold) in your hands is your first thought of the day. 

Family: The constant and most important thing in your life. The first question from your family over the phone is almost always, "how's the baby?" followed by "we miss ____!" You and your well being are now in second place, however, the special bond between your child and a family member can also be free babysitting down the road! ; )

Time: Motherhood (40's-50's)

Sleep: You're sleeping through night, alhough you are able to get by on less sleep because you have a circus to run the next day. Your kids' sleep patterns become your sleep patterns. 

Coffee: Saturdays and Sundays you go for coffee with the "girls."

Family: The most constant important thing in your life. Your kids' emotional well-being is your first priority and your main worry. You also become a taxi driver and coordinator of everyones activities and plans. 

Time: Grandmother-hood (50's-60's)

Sleep: You can get by on less sleep. But when you do sleep, you sleep like a baby. 

Coffee: Sipping coffee in the morning with your significant other while reading in your bathrobe and slippers.

Family: The most constant and important thing in your life. This is almost more fun than having your kids because you get to do the fun things and then pass them back to the parents and go home and sleep!

Time: Great Grandmother-hood (70 +)

Sleep: You can sleep whenever and however long you want.

Coffee: This is no longer needed. You can nap anytime of the day!

Family: The most constant and important thing in your life. You LOVE it when they visit, send cards and throw you an awesome 90th Birthday party for all your friends (everyone in the retirement community) to attend! Hugs from family are gold. 

Time That Babies & Toddlers Give Mother's

Time to snuggle
Time to wrap all their fingers around your one
Time to film 90 minutes of baby babbles
Time to watch first steps
Time to hear the pitter patter of tiny feet running across the floor
Time to read one more story
Time to take an extra lonnnng time in the bubble bath
Time to find new ways to make them laugh
Time to take more photos
Time to blow bubbles
Time to give piggy backs
Time to carry them on one hip
Time to see them develop
Time to learn things (from things that you introduced to them)
Time to develop a special bond
Time to introduce them to new experiences
Time to experience the joy of an Amazon brown box
Time to feel and hear bubble wrap "pop"
Time to be with them
Time to teach them new words
Time to watch them learn new skills.
Time to find things they like
Time to cake pop : )

On Instagram, we all joke about being tired, needing coffee, wine, trips to Target and wanting time to ourselves once in a while. I'm so guilty of all the above! We do need all of these things as mothers! 

I also realized on Sunday that this part of my life, although it requires constant care and attention to be in the early stages of motherhood, it is only 1/5 of my entire lifetime. 

When I look at it this way, I realize time is a thief, and, if I let it, I'll miss out on all the things time does allow me to have with my baby/toddler. These are the days, mamas, and this is the time most of have dreamed about since we were 5!

 I hope this post help's you reflect on how you want to spend your "early motherhood" days as this week has certainly put things into perspective for myself. 

From me to you!

XO - Steph

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